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Find a Penfriend

Finding a snail mail pen friend used to be quite straight forward. All one had to do was to check out the personal columns of news papers and magazines and write to any pen pal clubs who had their adverts there but the internet changed all that. People deserted snail mail pen friend clubs in favour of internet dating sites however there are people who are not computer savvy or prefer to correspond with others the old-fashioned way, the advantages of this are the dangers of internet dating compared with correspondence by letter. The most obvious answer to that is to do a Google search of pen friend clubs. I know that may sound contradictory to my earlier statements but some snail mail pen friend clubs have gone online but have still retained a snail mail option. Some safe guards need to be put in place when making any initial contact online and that includes not using an email address in any ads you place or set up a separate email address for the sole purpose of finding a pen pal.

Writing to the editors of overseas newspapers is another way to find some pen friends. Again you can do a Google search to find the addresses of local newspapers in the areas where you would like to make new friends. This can result in some enquiries. Another option is that you can make the initial contact through dating sites but request in your profile that you are seeking snail mail pen friends. There will be a certain number of people who prefer contact in this way.

I first began writing to pen pals in 1985 after noticing an ad for a pen pal club in a British magazine and ended up subscribing to their contact magazine. Most of the ads in the magazine were from the United Kingdom. I wrote to several who advertised but my biggest responses came when I placed my own ad in the magazine. I got up to around 30 replies from some of the ads I placed and some I clicked with and got around to meeting up with them when I travelled over to the United Kingdom. Other people who have began writing as pen pals ended up being married to them whether that was their intention or not. It just shows you that a fascinating hobby such as writing to pen pals can have a major impact of where your life goes.

Tips To Date Someone With Herpes

  • Get a test done

If your partner admits that he or she has herpes, you should go ahead and get tested. According to doctors, more than 70% people have no idea if they are infected with this disease. You don’t need to worry if both of you are found positive. You just need to take steps to treat the condition, and it’s OK if you keep on dating.

  • Use Meds

You should be as careful as possible. You may know that herpes is contagious and it’s a must that you take precautions. If you want to prevent the transmission of disease, we suggest that you go on meds like Acyclovir and Valtrex. This will reduce the chance of the spread. Apart from this, you need to make sure that your partner takes the required meds before you get intimate.

  • Get to Know More about HSV

You may want to know as much as you can about HSV. Jumping to conclusions is not a good idea. Reading up on the disease will help you stay on the safe side. At the same time, you will be able to have a lot of fun with your partner.

  • Don’t have an intercourse while the outbreaks happen

It’s not a good idea to get intimate with your partner when the breakout occurs. Predicting the outbreaks of herpes is not an easy job. To be on the safe side, we suggest that you stay away from sexual intercourse before, after and during the outbreak.

  • Use protection

While using protection can’t give you a 100% guarantee that the infection won’t occur, but it can reduce the chance of catching the disease to a great extent.

  • Provide emotional support

You may want to support your partner on an emotional level. You may want to know that it takes a lot of courage to admit that you have herpes. So, if your partner has told you that he or she has the disease, you may want to listen to her or him and provide emotional support. You should keep in mind that bad things can happen to anyone, including you. Therefore, you may want to tap on the back of your partner and help them get over it and get the most of out their life.

Single and Waiting

Here are a few things to consider while waiting for your future hubby to arrive:

  1. Stop blaming him for not being able to fulfill your need to get married just because you feel you are ready! Everything happens for a reason and maybe the reason that you are waiting is because you are not as ready as you think.
  2. Dig deep. Take a look at yourself and ask if there is anything that you can work on to make yourself the very best you there is to offer. Are there any childhood troubles that haunt you or hold you back? Are there secrets that you have never discussed that have negatively shaped you into who you are today? Did you pick up a couple of undesirable traits from your parents that you wish you hadn’t? What about past relationships that you still hold resentment or shame about? Now is the time to reflect and face any demons or excess baggage that you carry. Try counseling or therapy and prayer to help you talk about it. This will not be easy, but God is watching, and sometimes He won’t allow you to move forward because He needs you to drop some things from your past. These things can get in the way of the role He needs you to play paired with your husband and your purpose. Your marital stagnation may not be Boaz’s fault at all. Your future hubby is going to need a helpmate not a patient.
  3. Have you ever really listened to the lyrics of the song “Bag Lady” by Erykah Badu? STOP RIGHT NOW and YouTube it. It’s quite deep and the message is clear. The bag lady portrayed in the song isn’t carrying physical baggage but the emotional kind. She states “Bag lady you gon’ miss your bus, you can’t hurry up, cuz you got too much stuff”, “one day, he gon’ say you crowding my space”. The lyrics elude to the fact that carrying too much baggage will delay life progress, slow you down from establishing successful relationships. It can get in the way of a current relationship, creating doubt by your mate that there is enough room for him along with your emotional baggage. Spend this time of waiting, reflecting and challenging yourself to learn more about you and face the tough stuff BEFORE you bind your man into marriage.
  4. It doesn’t have to be that deep. If in review of yourself your findings say that you are not emotionally challenged but yet Boaz is still not here, then use the time to check off a few bucket list items. Take yourself out of your comfort zone and amaze yourself about what you thought you could never do. Experience something new, discover new things.

Unique Anniversary Gift

Anniversaries always add a special chapter to your life; it is the day when you became one from two. Make sure you do something special this anniversary with the following unique ideas. It promises to add an interesting angle to your married life.

1. It is always a very interesting thing to re-enact your first date the first time you met, maybe at the same restaurant, the nervousness, the shyness it’s a lovely thing to walk through the memory lane.
2. Play a very interesting quiz game; place a question placard that reads the question, “What would you like to do tonight?”
3. Wake up early in the morning make every preparation necessary for the day to be special, make a note of all those places she visits after she wakes up in the morning, it could be see looks in the mirror, then goes to the bathroom and then she moves to the living room and then to the kitchen. So strategically place a note at all these places with some special message and when she comes back to you in the bedroom, surprise her with a special gift.
4. Introduce your partner to an interesting alphabet game, where each alphabet holds a memory lane of things you might have done or from your previous memory, it is a loving present it could be with an image or some crazy video.
5. She loves chocolates, hide them all over the house in every place, let her discover them and enjoy.
6. Give her a personalized calendar that consists a unique thing you might have done for her in the previous years in those specific months or a day, with some photos on them.
7. Get a pair of customized personalized T-shirts for the both of you with some interesting lines written on them that defines the both of you. Go out wearing them.
8. Make her a special dinner, and treat her as if she were a queen, with all the comfort and care.
9. Amuse her by indulging in some cute role-playing. Enact out an interesting scene from your favorite movie.
10. Write a crazy song for her, that involves interesting and original lyrics by you, and in the parts where you would gift her present her those gifts, like a perfume or a wrist watch or a stunning dress.

Pros And Cons Of Long Distance Relationships

As an optimistic, I will start with the pros or long distance relationships:

  • You miss your partner – couples that live together often have one problem. They do not have time to miss each other due to the fact that they barely get alone time. They constantly see each other and sometimes this can drive you nuts. In a long distance relationship you get to miss your partner, his smell, smile, touch and many things.
  • You get alone time – despite contrary beliefs, me time is very important. In a relationship and outside of it as well. You get time to relax, do the things you love, go out with friends, stay with your family, study or simply watch a movie or a TV show that you love.
  • It’s a constant honeymoon – people who are in a long distance relationship know what I am talking about. While spending time with yourself is important, when you get the chance of meeting your partner is a constant honeymoon. You drink wine together and have long romantic evenings, you go out more for walks in the park. And not to mention that sex is better.

But there are also cons when you are having a long distance relationship:

  • Distance – ironic huh? But distance is your biggest enemy. You see your partner not as often as you would like and that can be frustrating sometimes. Especially when you hear your friends that they have a date on Friday and you know the only thing you have a date with is your laptop. Also you might feel like he can’t be there for you, especially through the dark periods of your relationship, because you only see his face, but he can’t hug you.
  • Tech is your best friend – as we do not spend enough time on our phones, a long distance relationship is based mostly on tech. You Skype, Facebook or text all through the day in order to communicate with your partner.
  • Things can get heated – if you are a rather jealous person you might get a little out of your mind in a long distance relationship. Mostly because you want to keep tabs on your boyfriend and if he is some miles away, you can’t.

Despite what people believe long distance relationship do work. But they work only if the two partners are fully committed and ready to make it work. Face to face relationships have hiccups sometimes, let alone the long distance ones. But if you are ready to make it work, compromise and understand that this situation will not last forever, your relationship will hold on. And to be fair, it is always nice to know you have someone waiting for you at the train station when you arrive.

Things Singles Can Relate to

For the single fellas, here is something to laugh about. The things that are too real for you.

Default hotel and restaurant offers are for couples

Why will you pay for an extra when you’re the only one having dinner or occupying the room or having dinner. Right here, you will realize that it’s just the default offer and that you can ask them to prepare something good for only one person. Yes, the realization comes in that people are expected to be with someone else. No pressure!

Being single is happy and sad

Happiness is a choice and you always choose to be it. But, there are days that you feel awful for not having someone to cuddle with in the heavy rain. You are fine being alone, because who needs someone else when you can do everything. But, there are moments when you feel like you have been left out and deprived of the happiness of loving and being loved. It’s sad, but you’re happy with the perks of just looking after yourself.

Single quotes everywhere

Opening Twitter and Instagram feels like an overflow of quotes describing your single life. You feel like everything posted on these sites are for you. Sometimes, you’re tempted to post a thing or two because it just hits close to home. But, you have welcomed the realities of singlblessedness that it does not matter what others say.

You get nervous about first dates

You are a ball of nervous energy that you bail out of dates. The last date you had was years ago and you forgot the protocols of the having a first date. So, you are more likely to refrain from dating (and dating sites for that matter) or even cancel date plans because you’re nervous. Better avoid puking your dinner or choking on those salads than go through the ordeal of dating. It is no wonder why you stay single.

Be bitter at some point

Most of the time, lovely couples does not bother you. They even make you wish to meet the perfect partner someday. Yet, there are times when you just want to see the world burn together with the sweet couple from your neighborhood. The statement “nothing lasts forever” has crossed your mind while seeing couples having fun.

Cake Gift For Anniversary

The online website should have a worldwide reputation of being one of the best in its taste, quality and delivery service. In this article information will be given on the five useful tips for choosing the best anniversary cake to be sent to India.

1. Choose The Flavour For The Anniversary Cake
The flavour should suit the occasion and the nature of the individual. There are a whole set of choices for anniversary based cakes on every well-renowned cake baker websites. In case, the design is not satisfactory, there is always an option provided on any cake servicing website to have a personal touch.

2. Number Of Persons And The Type Of Anniversary Cake
Kindly imagine, the individual takes every minute detail in consideration to send anniversary cake to India. If the numbers of attendees are more, it will be a major embarrassment for the entire family. Ordering any cake will be easy, but how about ordering a Fruit cake or Chocolate cake of the right size? Every attendee will get a share of fruit, bless the occasion and return home fulfilled.

3. Choosing The Best Anniversary Cake Vendors
Checking their website will also give more worthy ideas and numerous anniversary cake types to grace the grand gala event.

4. Budget
In recent times, stiff competition has forced many businesses to offer the best quality products at reasonable prices. It is wise not to bargain, as the cake will get the best dressing, there is, in the form of fruits, toppers etc. The result of taking the initiative for the specific landmark should be fulfilled.

5. Placing The Order
With tumultuous incidents happening all over the world, it is better to order the cake before the anniversary date. That way, the individual can ensure the cake is designed as per the requirement. The online company, on its behalf, instead of scrambling at the last minute, can breathe easy, offer the best service and have the cake ready in all its creativity and fest delivered at the right time.

Finding Love

Step 1: Get a pen and paper, whiteboard, or notebook on your device, and write down the 10 qualities that are most important to you in a partner. And remember, this is to help you move forward, so no cheating! For example, “attractive, tall, green eyes, black hair, athletic” does not count as one quality but 5. And “kind, generous, loyal” is 3 qualities, not 1. Take your time writing down the 10 qualities. These are the 10 qualities that you want more than any others, so again, no cheating. Keep it to 10.

Step 2: Now, scan this list of 10 qualities that you have written down. Think about how you feel about these qualities. Then be very strong and let go of 5 of them. Yes, I know this can be hard, but do it anyway. There is a reason for that. This leaves you with 5 qualities that are the most important of all to you in a partner.

Step 3: OK, now for the really interesting part. Cut the list down to 3 qualities and no more. Take your time, you can experiment with it, think how you feel, and look at the list until you have whittled it down to 3 qualities. These are the qualities that are important for you in a partner. This focuses your attention, and it is said that we can usually only find a partner that satisfies 3 qualities that are important to us. For example, if it is “Honest, Loyal, and Black-haired”, then you know not to waste time on dishonest people (do they cheat on their tax, or tell lies in social groups in order to make themselves seem more interesting?), disloyal people (are they disloyal to their employer or cheated on their partner, for example?), or people with blond hair (because that would not keep your interest looks-wise long-term). Of course, these are just 3 qualities I plucked out of thin air with no prejudice to blond, red, brown, black, or bald-haired amazing partners but you get the idea.

Pick Up Women at The Office

First and foremost, test the waters: Unless the woman you’re after is undeniably attracted to you as well, chances are that your advances will not be welcome. So start off by always saying “hi” to her and smile at her every time you cross paths with her. Doing this frequently will make her aware of you. After you’ve done this a few times, you can progress to trying to extend your interaction with her beyond just saying “hi.” Do not try to pick her up or ask her out at this point. Just keep the conversations on work related stuff or other neutral topics. The purpose of this is to gauge how receptive she is simply talking to you and also to get her comfortable around you and used to talking to you.

Secondly, assuming you now know she has a receptive attitude when you talk to her, it’s time to start joking around with her. By this I mean it’s OK to tease her a little and be somewhat playful here and there. In other words, try to bring out both her sense of humor and yours. I say this because you don’t want to come across as just another boring guy at work that talks to her and only all about business and work related stuff.

Thirdly, now that you’ve established a little rapport with her, it’s time to invite her out for lunch or happy hour drinks after work or any other after hours activity. The important part here is to make sure you invite her to join you and other co-workers. Bringing other co-workers into the picture makes things a loss less threatening to her. Plus, she’ll feel a lot more encouraged to accept the invite since everyone else is going. At this point you’re still going to keep things friendly between the two of you since you don’t want to make any advances in front of other co-workers. It’s OK to flirt a little when you have those opportunistic alone moments with her.

Lastly, now that you’ve both been out of the office together – albeit with other co-workers – the idea of going out with you again some place else won’t seem so foreign to her anymore. A few days later while at the office, invite her to hang out with you one-on-one for lunch or preferably drinks after work. Again do this privately when you cross paths in the office hallway or parking lot or someplace similar. If she accepts, this would be a good time to exchange numbers. If she declines, then politely suggest another time with a smile.

Find Your Soulmate

  • Side Effects of Online Dating 

With online dating being on the rise, it has taken a lot of the mystery and excitement out of dating because it is too easy. We then make lists based on judgments on what we think we want to screen people. Much of what we could be looking for could also be on the defense to avoid the pain from the side effects of the online dating system. Because there are so many choices, we dismiss each other like numbers, which creates a great disconnect. Online dating can be useful for some who genuinely have a hard time meeting people but within moderation. Its overuse can become a distraction to finding one’s soulmate. So let’s refresh our memories on how to use our divine guidance to understand what our hearts really want, not what the ego wants.

  • The Purpose of a Relationship

The purpose of a relationship and that of a soulmate relationship is to teach us how to love more fully. To get there, we have lessons to learn, habits and beliefs that we need to let go of. Love is something that should automatically flow through us when we are feeling pure. Therefore what we need to focus on is letting go of blockages and remembering our pure state. This is very important to be clear with because our egos want to protect us from our blockages. The whole process is far easier when we are able to surrender to all of it. This is what divine guidance will take us through as we ultimately want to realign ourselves with emotional balance. The closer we are to reaching this, the closer we are to attracting our soulmate whom can show up at any time.

  • Understanding the Journey

A journey to finding our soulmate is a journey that starts from within. The emotions of finding the right person are very intense, therefore we need to have achieved the right emotional balance to be able to handle them. It is not all easy like a fairy tale, they will challenge us to learn the big lessons we have to learn and we have to be ready to handle that. That’s also a sign that we met the right person. They are there to show us the path to surrender our ego, as that’s how true love will come out. It’s all part of the divine plan. This is why the journey is all about preparing ourselves emotionally. The more we ignore this, the more painful experiences we may have to go through to realize this truth. However, with the right vision, the path will be very exciting, fulfilling and joyful!

  • Recognizing Divine Guidance

Divine guidance comes in the form of meaningful experiences, signs, mysterious coincidences and synchronicity all with the purpose of showing us what we need to learn. We will develop our intuition as we learn to read the messages.