Monthly Archives: September 2018

Creating a Positive Long Distance Relationship

Relationships can be hard, but long-distance relationships bring a new meaning to the idea of what is hard in the relationship. The emotional, psychological, spiritual and physical needs of the relationship must be fulfilled in alternative ways. Long-distance relationships can be successful when they are cultivated on the art of communication and trust between the partners. Prioritizing your goals with your partner and speaking with them and making it known to others how you feel about them can help intensify your relationship.

Keep your Skype or phone call dates. Cancelling on your partner might imply to them, they are an afterthought or just an alternative if nothing better is going on. Keep your scheduled Skype/phone calls as you would a date. Make sure you inform your friends or family of your plans to spend the evening talking to your partner and that you are unavailable at that time. If you need to cancel for an emergency, let your partner know so they don’t feel stood up.

Communicate about anything and everything. Be honest about how you are feeling, share what you are passionate about and what activities you are currently involved in. Talk to your partner with video chat, instant messenger, email. Write an old fashioned letter to your lover as a surprise or a romantic gesture. Send your partner little gifts in the mail you think they would enjoy. It is the little things that let them know you are thinking of them during your everyday when you are apart.

Visit each other and never cancel them unless it is an emergency. Refusing to commit to an agreed visit or cancelling on your partner for alternative vacation can cause irrevocable damage. By staying committed to your visits, you will demonstrate to your partner your desire to be with them on an everyday basis in the future. If you no longer feel the relationship is working out or have some fear about visiting, discuss this issue with your partner instead of cancelling on them and lying about the reason. Resolving these issues can help you reevaluate and strengthen your relationship.

Anniversary Gift

For men finding the perfect anniversary gift is very important for their partner. Many men may forget or underestimate the importance of finding a great anniversary gift. For men an anniversary gift is one of the best options that is simple, straightforward and thoughtful. Many men may not know how to find a gift like this without a little help. One thing that a man should look for is a card or online anniversary e-card that is thoughtful and interesting. Look for cards that speak directly to the heart of your partner in a way that will cause them to emotionally attach themselves to you.

For women finding the perfect anniversary gift is very important. Many women have a good idea of what types of cards to get their partner, but often are unsure of if they will be liked. For women it is important that you have a pretty good idea of your partner’s personality type. This will help you hone into the different types of cards that they would like. If your partner likes to laugh, then it is important to find an anniversary gift that can make them laugh. There are a large number of different anniversary cards that are available to them.

Ideas;- A thoughtful card together with a thoughtful gift could be:-

  1. Send a message in a bottle
  2. Personalised song sound wave print framed and mounted
  3. A personalised wooden cheese board with your names engraved on it
  4. Personalised wooden tea lights, in fact anything personalised really hits the right spot
  5. A bouquet of flowers
  6. Or just surprise you partner and take them away on holiday

There are a number of different gifts that a person can give their partners. When you are searching for the best anniversary gift for your partner there are a number of places that you can find one. You can search in both retail stores as well as online stores. There is an abundance of sites online catering for the exclusive and the niche gifts. So with the right keywords for your search you should find the ideal product online. It is after all the easiest way to find a the ideal gift is online, and it comes delivered to your door.

Tips Successful Date

Some of the tips that you should follow to make the date a success are as follows:

  • Keep On the Appearance

I am sure you have heard that the first impression is the last impression. So, to make that a lasting one you need to care about certain things. Dressing better is the first thing that can help you to impress. Every lady likes their man to be dressed well. Clean and tidy look is just the perfect way to impress. Get some good clothing from a store you like. If you really want to impress then spending a little of the bucks on proper dressing shouldn’t matter.

  • Choose a Good Location

When you are dating her then you should maintain to take her to restaurants and bars that impress her. A good location, hygienic surrounding, and a good ambiance are what you should be looking for. If the restaurant serves one of her favorites then you are almost done.

  • Do Not Complain

Negative talks can stop the routes of all conversation. Keep the way open by stopping to complain about anything you find disappointing. If you do not find anything interesting to say, don’t say anything for a while. Slowly you will notice something interesting to speak of.

  • Be Interested

The more you feel interested in the opposite person the more interest the other person will grow towards you. Try and find out you common choices. Of course, that can be a point of growing bonding between you two.

  • Plan Surprises

No matter what age she is she would love surprises. Bring her a special gift all of a sudden or arrange music and dance when you are on an evening date.

Romantic Things To Do

  1. Get up super early. Have a special breakfast prepared in advance and set the timer on the coffee maker. Take a short trip to watch the sunrise together.
  2. When your special someone gets home, have a makeshift massage area ready to go complete with candlelight, soft music and a nice scent. Offer a romantic massage and pamper them.
  3. On a day when they are not pressed for time, hop in to the shower and offer to wash their back. Maybe shower time can be expanded into a little more time for the two of you to connect.
  4. Enjoy an indoor picnic by the fireplace. Have everything prepared – a picnic basket, blanket, flowers – anything you would use for an outdoor picnic. Of course, a nice bottle of wine would be nice
  5. Make a surprise dinner for your special someone. Send them an invitation at their office with the date, time and place. Make it romantic with candlelight and flowers and a nicely set table. Best of all, prepare a dish you know they’ll love.
  6. Bring home flowers – whether it’s for a man or a woman. Again, do it on an unexpected day.
  7. Buy a dozen roses and attach a note to each rose with a reason why you love your significant other. Scatter them on the bed or place them all over your home for them to find.
  8. Buy an unexpected creative romantic gift. It doesn’t have to be expensive and it doesn’t have to be for a birthday, anniversary or Valentines Day. Just because is reason enough.
  9. Prepare a romantic bath with lots of bubbles, candles and bath and body products. Bring in a bottle of wine or champagne and just sit and relax. Two people that love each other – no clothes – confined space.
  10. Pull out some photos of the two of you and place them in frames. Place them around the house/bedroom.
  11. Book a local hotel room. Send your special someone an invitation to a romantic evening and have them meet you at the hotel. When they knock on the door, have the room romantically decorated.

Find a Penfriend

Finding a snail mail pen friend used to be quite straight forward. All one had to do was to check out the personal columns of news papers and magazines and write to any pen pal clubs who had their adverts there but the internet changed all that. People deserted snail mail pen friend clubs in favour of internet dating sites however there are people who are not computer savvy or prefer to correspond with others the old-fashioned way, the advantages of this are the dangers of internet dating compared with correspondence by letter. The most obvious answer to that is to do a Google search of pen friend clubs. I know that may sound contradictory to my earlier statements but some snail mail pen friend clubs have gone online but have still retained a snail mail option. Some safe guards need to be put in place when making any initial contact online and that includes not using an email address in any ads you place or set up a separate email address for the sole purpose of finding a pen pal.

Writing to the editors of overseas newspapers is another way to find some pen friends. Again you can do a Google search to find the addresses of local newspapers in the areas where you would like to make new friends. This can result in some enquiries. Another option is that you can make the initial contact through dating sites but request in your profile that you are seeking snail mail pen friends. There will be a certain number of people who prefer contact in this way.

I first began writing to pen pals in 1985 after noticing an ad for a pen pal club in a British magazine and ended up subscribing to their contact magazine. Most of the ads in the magazine were from the United Kingdom. I wrote to several who advertised but my biggest responses came when I placed my own ad in the magazine. I got up to around 30 replies from some of the ads I placed and some I clicked with and got around to meeting up with them when I travelled over to the United Kingdom. Other people who have began writing as pen pals ended up being married to them whether that was their intention or not. It just shows you that a fascinating hobby such as writing to pen pals can have a major impact of where your life goes.

Tips To Date Someone With Herpes

  • Get a test done

If your partner admits that he or she has herpes, you should go ahead and get tested. According to doctors, more than 70% people have no idea if they are infected with this disease. You don’t need to worry if both of you are found positive. You just need to take steps to treat the condition, and it’s OK if you keep on dating.

  • Use Meds

You should be as careful as possible. You may know that herpes is contagious and it’s a must that you take precautions. If you want to prevent the transmission of disease, we suggest that you go on meds like Acyclovir and Valtrex. This will reduce the chance of the spread. Apart from this, you need to make sure that your partner takes the required meds before you get intimate.

  • Get to Know More about HSV

You may want to know as much as you can about HSV. Jumping to conclusions is not a good idea. Reading up on the disease will help you stay on the safe side. At the same time, you will be able to have a lot of fun with your partner.

  • Don’t have an intercourse while the outbreaks happen

It’s not a good idea to get intimate with your partner when the breakout occurs. Predicting the outbreaks of herpes is not an easy job. To be on the safe side, we suggest that you stay away from sexual intercourse before, after and during the outbreak.

  • Use protection

While using protection can’t give you a 100% guarantee that the infection won’t occur, but it can reduce the chance of catching the disease to a great extent.

  • Provide emotional support

You may want to support your partner on an emotional level. You may want to know that it takes a lot of courage to admit that you have herpes. So, if your partner has told you that he or she has the disease, you may want to listen to her or him and provide emotional support. You should keep in mind that bad things can happen to anyone, including you. Therefore, you may want to tap on the back of your partner and help them get over it and get the most of out their life.

Single and Waiting

Here are a few things to consider while waiting for your future hubby to arrive:

  1. Stop blaming him for not being able to fulfill your need to get married just because you feel you are ready! Everything happens for a reason and maybe the reason that you are waiting is because you are not as ready as you think.
  2. Dig deep. Take a look at yourself and ask if there is anything that you can work on to make yourself the very best you there is to offer. Are there any childhood troubles that haunt you or hold you back? Are there secrets that you have never discussed that have negatively shaped you into who you are today? Did you pick up a couple of undesirable traits from your parents that you wish you hadn’t? What about past relationships that you still hold resentment or shame about? Now is the time to reflect and face any demons or excess baggage that you carry. Try counseling or therapy and prayer to help you talk about it. This will not be easy, but God is watching, and sometimes He won’t allow you to move forward because He needs you to drop some things from your past. These things can get in the way of the role He needs you to play paired with your husband and your purpose. Your marital stagnation may not be Boaz’s fault at all. Your future hubby is going to need a helpmate not a patient.
  3. Have you ever really listened to the lyrics of the song “Bag Lady” by Erykah Badu? STOP RIGHT NOW and YouTube it. It’s quite deep and the message is clear. The bag lady portrayed in the song isn’t carrying physical baggage but the emotional kind. She states “Bag lady you gon’ miss your bus, you can’t hurry up, cuz you got too much stuff”, “one day, he gon’ say you crowding my space”. The lyrics elude to the fact that carrying too much baggage will delay life progress, slow you down from establishing successful relationships. It can get in the way of a current relationship, creating doubt by your mate that there is enough room for him along with your emotional baggage. Spend this time of waiting, reflecting and challenging yourself to learn more about you and face the tough stuff BEFORE you bind your man into marriage.
  4. It doesn’t have to be that deep. If in review of yourself your findings say that you are not emotionally challenged but yet Boaz is still not here, then use the time to check off a few bucket list items. Take yourself out of your comfort zone and amaze yourself about what you thought you could never do. Experience something new, discover new things.